A Filipina girl can be a martyr at times and just try to absorb and take the blows until they reach their tipping point and then they say “Ouch!” Crying is the way a woman says “I’ve had enough!” so western husbands must not get offended by women crying. It is their way of saying “Please take notice of what you are doing to me!”. It doesn’t take much to please a Filipina back. Simple gestures to show you’re sorry is enough, You do not have to rationalize and explain to them why you are or have been horrible. That will only make the matter worse and could escalate to a full blown fight. This is the secret of lasting marriages in a Filipino society. Because of “suyo”, simple spousal complaints are easily addressed to and are not allowed to grow into a big fight.
One must understand the following to avoid marital arguments with Filipina wives:
1. Family comes first above everything else. You might have a very big problem with work or money but when family is involved, everything else has to take a back seat. If a Filipino will be made to choose between a career and taking care of a parent with Alzheimers, most Filipinos will definitely choose to take care of their parents. For nothing will be more important to a Filipino than their family. They would rather be poor than lose a family member.
2. Do not make a Filipino choose between a spouse and a parent. We are all brought up with a belief that we owe our lives to our parents and we should be eternally grateful for that. There is a saying in the Philippines that “one can have as many spouse as he can but he will only have 1 set of parents.
3. Pursuit of happiness is paramount in all relationships. Do not get too absorbed on worries or money problems because it takes away the life in a relationship. You can have too much money but if you lose your family/wife along the way of achieving the same, you will never be truly happy in the end. You can have as much money as you want if there is no one to share it to (and I mean someone who matters to you), it will be futile.
4. Never forget your wife no matter how busy you become. Be aware of your actions and never taken them for granted. Your wife should be your best friend whom you can share your deepest and darkest secret, your worries and you problems without fear of having to be judged. So do not keep things to yourself when you have someone to share the burden with. You’ll be a lot happier this way.